Wednesday Jan 27 10:27 pm

We continue to wait as Jake continues to decline. It is very hard for me to be in his room for more than a few minutes. I do not know if I am meant to watch his last breaths. In some ways that seems wrong so I come in and tell him I love him throughout the course of the day. I have told him again and again that it is ok to go. I have finally gathered the collection of pictures I will use for the memorial video. This in and of itself was a very difficult task. Marci has been exemplary in setting up the arrangements that will occur when this is over. It is nice that at least in all of this Marci and I have come to know that even though we have difficulties as a couple, we succeed very well when it comes to getting things done. We work as a well oiled team with each of us doing the things we do best. This tragedy has also helped us to get past the emotional pain of the breakup and function as friends both wanting the other to succeed and do well. Our focus is on what matters, our children and we will use that as our strength to survive this. I believe there are only two ways one can move, forward towards survival or back into a hole. At times the hole seems to be an easier way to go but our ultimate responsibility to our kids and to Jakes memory will prevent that from ever happening. All we want to do is make Jake proud and we will do that by showing him that we can be as strong as he has been both in continuing as parents and human beings. We will never get over this and will try and continue to live full lives all the while anticipating the day in the future when it will be our turn to be re-united with all our loved ones.